actuality.log


Tuesday, July the 29th, 2008

Or at least, what’s left of it.

Reduced viewership

What do you think it means when a woman tells you she’s “not sure” if she’s single? Does it make a difference that she brought up the topic and volunteered this information to me? (We all know I’m too chicken to speak my mind on the matter.)

What am I then supposed to do?

  • Do I go, “OK, that’s uhh… good to know.” (Not how I feel.)
  • Do I probe for more information? (Scary, and the thought of what I’ll find out puts my tummy in knots.)
  • Should I speak my mind? (Potentially too forward.)
  • Must I sit back and wait until she figures things out for herself? (Might blow my opening while I wait.)

Life ought to come with some sort of instruction manual; one with really pretty and colourful pictures, so it has a prayer of being read.

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3 Responses to “Questions for the audience”

  1. Michelle says:

    If a woman’s “not sure” if she’s single, I say that means give it up now and maybe try to reconnect another time when she is sure. The fact that she volunteered it herself seems to me that she’s trying not to lead you on or is trying to dissuade you from being interested in her. It just sounds like she’s in a relationship now and may be having problems and isn’t sure whether she’s willing to stick to it and work it out or give up on it yet.

    Don’t push it. If she in any way connects you with the end of this relationship, it may put her off you – in the event that she does become available – if she has/had any interest there to begin with.

  2. pundit says:

    Drat! You’ve told me everything I didn’t want to hear, but thanks for helping me figure out a suitable response: Not pushing the matter.

  3. Michelle says:

    Heh, I tend to be good at telling people what they DON’T want to hear. But usually, if you don’t want to hear something, you know THAT’S the right thing. Doesn’t hurt to get a second opinion now and then, though. ;)


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