Wednesday, August the 29th, 2007
  • It turns out, unsurprisingly, that “Hey, where did you meet your wife? I’m looking for a place to meet someone non-crazy.” is a non-optimal way to start a conversation.
  • It turns out that one of the ulterior motives of this journal—making me a better writer—has climaxed in colossal failure. All that I’ve written here seems to have amounted to nought; as made clear by my daily struggles composing a dissertation.
  • It turns out that people who seem really interested in getting to know you one day can erratically flip their state of mind the next. Now, not only are they uninterested, but they are making an obvious effort to evade you; even after making eye-contact.
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7 Responses to “Things turning out”

  1. Mukul says:

    Bullet 1: I disagree. Depends on whether the person you are talking to has a sense of humor and liking for back-handed compliments.

    Bullet 2: I again disagree. You write fantastically. For someone who is not an evangelist, salesman, marketer, attention whore (Read Guy Kawasaki), you are amazingly articulate. The only quirk here is your unapologetic sociopathy and nerdiness. But those issues can be worked upon.

    Bullet 3: I completely agree. While I have been on the receiving end of such treatment in the past, I must confess I practice it myself too much, very frequently. When someone acts like that, it means – 1. They are not interested in you anymore. 2. They are apathetic towards how you might feel after realizing it. A good example would be evading someone you once had drunken sex with after a party.

  2. pundit says:

    Thanks, but I believe it’s more sociophobia than sociopathy.

  3. Mukul says:

    Sociopaths are much higher than sociophobics on the women’s pecking order. Popular culture should make that obvious.

    You should try crossing over to the other side. :-)

  4. pundit says:

    Even amongst the somewhat sane women with a modicum of self-esteem?

  5. VR says:

    I’d second Mukul’s bullet 2 :)

  6. Mukul says:

    Yes, even among those women.

    There is something sexy about rage. That is not the case with fear.

    Women know it. Not all men know it, hence most of us are doormats.

  7. pundit says:

    Mukul: I’ve heard conflicting reports from women I’ve talked to about this very topic. They weren’t unanimous on the whole rage thing; especially the ones who’ve played the doormats in previous relationships.

    The issue seems more along the lines of: Does one want to lead, or be led? A question that is relevant to either gender.

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