No, seriously, do they even exist?
Most of, if not all, the women I know can effortlessly kick my ass if they so chose.
Everyone’s read or been told the fairy tales, and everyone’s seen the Disney cartoons. You know, the ones which go something like so: beautiful princess-type is taken against her will by this evil doer → the charming, courageous and strong prince-type rescues her → all is well and they live together happily ever after.
Do these supposed, “pretty, weak females, whose only purpose is to be easily taken against their will and held captive” exist in reality?
But do men have to be all prince-like— confident, strong, brave, dashing, …—to be deemed worthy?
Why does society expect this of men? Do they need these attributes to be able to rescue these mythical weaklings from mythical evil doers? Do they need them to save themselves from the evil doers? Why?
The worlds potrayed in these stories aren’t true. Also, our world isn’t in some prehistoric state where the size of your biceps or your club matter.
The world today is different.
And yet, we’re caught up in “the old ways” of judging worthiness of mates.
And that’s stupid, not because of something profound, but because it means I am alone.
The preceding piece—written ages ago—was a precursor to the ideas that eventually ended up in this post. I found it while rummaging through some earlier notes and decided to milk it for what it’s worth.